In her 1969 book, On Death and Dying, Swiss-born psychiatrist Elizabeth Kubler-Ross outlined the five stages of grief of someone who is dying:
• Denial and isolation: “This is not happening to me.”
• Anger: “How dare God do this to me.”
• Bargaining: “Just let me live to see my son graduate.”
• Depression: “I can’t bear to face going through this, putting my family through this.”
• Acceptance: “I’m ready, I don’t want to struggle anymore.”
The list was praised and criticized by grief experts. Some said the stages got people expressing their emotions; others said the stages were too rigid.
I thought these stages are adaptable to some of us sisters who’re still single in our thirties:
• Denial and isolation: “This is not happening to me. The most perfect guy in the whole universe will come rescue me.”
• Anger: “All men suck!”
• Bargaining: “hmmm maybe I’ll settle for this trifling brotha that’s in my face right now. Even though he is shiftless right now, we can work through our issues”
• Depression: “I can’t bear to going through this, I’ll be one of those crazy ladies with tons of cats.”
• Acceptance: “I’m ready, I don’t want to struggle anymore…if it happens it happens.”
5 thoughts on “5 Stages of Being Single in Your Thirties”
Why alone> It is becasue of being angrey or it is the lonilness that keeps one angry.
Who is Dio?
I’m getting upset about comments and this isn’t even my blog. Hurry up with yo shower!
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross did some great research on death, loved your not married comparison.
I truly believe the older we get, the less we ”settle” with whoever’s in the vicinity. I was married far too young. 40 is the age of wisdom, hold out for the wisdom.
Totally agree! I’ve been through all the stages and decided to have a baby by myself. Being single in one’s thirties is an absolute nightmare.
Why are all these articles based on women? Men get depressed, lonely and angry too you know and we are not all pigs who hunt for easy prey!